I have had the same experience over and over again for a month now and it has opened my eyes. It has changed my life and the way I see people. It has cleared up the tangles of confusion that had been lurking in my thoughts for ages.
I am a remote worker and I deal with many types of clients. Recently, three or four times, clients contacted me, asking for work rates. I explained rates, explained the work, but there couldn’t win any project with them. And all of them having one common reason that another freelancer was doing the same work for them at a much lower rate. One client came and said that someone else was charging me half the rate of you. Another said that for the same price as you are charging for one product, someone else will do all the products for me. Although I have kept the charges very reasonable in the beginning and considering the number of hours that are to be spent on the work and the kind of responsibility, it is not at all reasonable to do the work for their supposed rates.
From here I understand two things that those who agree to work, either do not know the work or they do not know the value of themselves and their time. Well, all this goes on in professional life, but from here I got a deep point which has taught me and explained a lot. And which I want to share with all of you.
It occurred to me that this happens in life and relationships too. Just as not every client can afford a reliable and responsible freelancer, similarly, there are some people in our lives who are so devoid of certain human qualities that they cannot afford us. In other words, they do not want to pay the price of being with us. They look for an easy alternative that they can keep even after a small price. Does this mean that you are bad or your standards are too high?
So tell me, did my ability or competence become questionable because two or three clients did not hire me? Not at all. My or your ability never depends on how someone else sees us. Does this mean that my standards are high? Yes, absolutely, but not so high that anyone who is willing to pay the price cannot afford it. Because on other platforms, I also have clients who choose me even at three times my prices. Because they adore my same high standards and professionalism in work.
And the same thing happens in life. So if people leave you and feel that you are “too much” for them, then accept it. Because either they do not have enough courage to pay the price of being with you or they are not mentally ready for it. In such a case, do them a favor, by freeing them from burden of your presence in their life. Because the one who is mentally mature enough, will be ready to pay the price.
“Dear, You are never too much. You are just at a place that doesn’t have enough capacity to hold you. Don’t try to fit in, you will break yourself.”